Being a first-year student, whatever I offer here is truly my own experience. And I was so confused that ended up, taking Major-Minor IN Physics and maths and not honours in Bachelors in Science.
Reading several blogs, self-help books especially Ready study GO! BY Khurshed Batliwala and Dinesh Ghodke, that true calling and fulfilment are in performing something that quenches the soul, that feeds the body, that serves the world, and that; you are not just another of the many Mr Graduates has made me write this for all the beautiful confused people out here.
Make A Choice!
When finally one is out of the study-mandatory-allotted-subjects system, and have the choice of subjects, don’t just wait and let your friends, family and acquaintance talk you out of the risks that follow what you really want to achieve, the path you want to choose. The stream and subject you really want to major in.
If you are comfortable being uncomfortable, then choose that really challenges you, that drives you nuts every time you think of it, you really can’t do math then I don’t suggest you do it anyway, and fail miserably, there is nothing you don’t really like, its either you lack practice or your approach to master that skill is terribly wrong.
If you want to be an Astrophysicists really bad or you want to be a Banker, but your marks in account subject are lower than your then crushes’ interest in you, or that the math teacher gives you creeps at the very thought of sitting in her class, then you have to make serious decisions, its either you change your ambition or work hard in subjects that are crucial to finally research and discover as an astrophysicist or to sit on that manager’s chair in that well know bank.
Don’t follow the Crowd!
Mothers have always imprinted in us that, do what your friend does, ‘’you’ll have company’’, ‘’you won’t be left alone’’, ‘’you’ll have the help needed’’ this leads to the vicious belief of ‘my friend knows better’ or ‘my friend knows the best’.
I am not against Mothers or friends, but the majority of the decisions according to me are out of either utter peer-pressure or fear Of BEING LEFT OUT, OUTCAST and a LONER!
Your friend is a completely different human so is so your mother, and so are you. Your dreams, your ambitions, your goals are not theirs, for that matter, they may never fathom what your dreams mean, until you realise them or until you have that ultimate job that pays the highest according to them.
Parents also try, at least middle-class families do, is that they want their children to finish education fast and start paying the house rent, the loans they once took for their marriage, the car instalment that they couldn’t afford and so. These aren’t your goal, nor are they your responsibilities.
It’s nice to be considerate towards your family and friends, but never let your goals die at the cost of making someone happy or never carry somebody else’s cross.
You want to help them, pursue your goals, have a hobby that pays you, be a freelancer, get an internship so; at least you could pay your own expense. And let them continue to pay for their liabilities, not worry you about them.
Speaking of friendship, don’t bend towards where girlfriend/boyfriend needs shade.#
Students at this age are naïve, they make promises, they falter, they break, and then one is left with nothing but a broken heart and a degree they never liked. Or worse, they just talk you out; just like your parents, they want you to themselves. Moreover, un-subconsciously they are just trying to protect you stereotypically, which is normal and human for any love-drenched-soul with mind and a heart but brain.
I have seen so many optimistic people turn just another of the many heart-broken pessimists. They are broken beyond measure, and their dreams have been shattered because they just pictured the other half in them all the time. Beware, BE CAREFUL, It’s just the mouth that speaks, life is a long run, not summoned in few fake rainbows promised.
It’s okay to be unsure of!
You will never know if you really like without really trying it in the first place. It’s thoroughly fine to be confused, to be lost, to be unsure of. With so many people successful in what they really like, there are also who succeeded in being dropouts, who did well in economics, after failing the first year in psychology. Don’t be in that impression that you will lose a year or something. No, just give it a try.
Be a smart Student!
By being smart, I don’t mean to have the knowledge of the distance between the moon and you. There are stories of people studying something and working utterly in a different. Beware again, study something that in five/ten years, no matter what, the world would be in a need to pay you for it.
A lot of students were pursuing Geology in recent years in Goa, as mining was peaking, but when students finally graduated, mining was banned in Goa, which left a high percentage of students unemployed and a lot to pursue courses in fields like tourism.BE A SMART STUDENT, BEWARE; MAKE A CHOICE AND WORK HARD! Click To Tweet
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